Concern & Loves - Tends to Deplete Through Time
Suddenly, I realize that most of us would, once a while thinks that, our partner did not loves us as much as before.
Let me put it this way. During courting stage, guy tends to put 100% concentration on what a girl would say. If she says "I don't feel well". The guy would ask and response directly. After the courting stage is over, here comes the dating stage. When she says "I don't feel well". Maybe the guy would just response "OK". Then when the girl ask why didn't you response. The guy would probably ask back what to response. After the dating, is the marriage stage. In this stage, the guy would probably say "You are big enough to take care of yourself". Some, might still show the concern and probably say "Go see doctor". Well, what about the attention in courting stage? Where has is gone?
For me, whatever we do for out partner at the first stage shouldn't be lost through time. We need to let each other know and listen to each other well. When I attend a wedding mass not long ago, I agree with what the Father say. Listen to each other as how you listen to her/him during the first stage. Don't ever neglect and think that listening to each other is annoying. Guy need to have the feeling of comfort at home. Girl, on the other hand, need to have the presence of loves. By marrying her, it shows that you would willing to commit to her and vice versa. But still, show out the loves and concern even if you already have kids. Do not forget to listen to each other, no matter how busy, spare time listen to what each other have to say. Listen and response.
Suddenly, I realize that most of us would, once a while thinks that, our partner did not loves us as much as before.
Let me put it this way. During courting stage, guy tends to put 100% concentration on what a girl would say. If she says "I don't feel well". The guy would ask and response directly. After the courting stage is over, here comes the dating stage. When she says "I don't feel well". Maybe the guy would just response "OK". Then when the girl ask why didn't you response. The guy would probably ask back what to response. After the dating, is the marriage stage. In this stage, the guy would probably say "You are big enough to take care of yourself". Some, might still show the concern and probably say "Go see doctor". Well, what about the attention in courting stage? Where has is gone?
For me, whatever we do for out partner at the first stage shouldn't be lost through time. We need to let each other know and listen to each other well. When I attend a wedding mass not long ago, I agree with what the Father say. Listen to each other as how you listen to her/him during the first stage. Don't ever neglect and think that listening to each other is annoying. Guy need to have the feeling of comfort at home. Girl, on the other hand, need to have the presence of loves. By marrying her, it shows that you would willing to commit to her and vice versa. But still, show out the loves and concern even if you already have kids. Do not forget to listen to each other, no matter how busy, spare time listen to what each other have to say. Listen and response.
Comments
To have feeling for someone is happen naturally.But, we can have decision to show/commit our love to our partner
We always forgot to listen voices from our heart and let the heart have "feel" again as this "feel" will make you care/listen to your partner.....Just think back and make this feeling alive again
We are not official a couple yet, but i think the feeling for each other are right...juz coz we are DISTANCE, so scared frienship also cho beh seng if we break off as couple.
Tat is why we still at first stage..Even one day we will married, still i love now tis kinda of feeling. hahaha