Being Availabe or Not Available ??

Well, I just read some stories of my friend's blog on her comment about being single. Well, for me, I think it depends on how we look at it.

Some people are very busy that their life isn't fit to have another person there. Some others are so free and their life is very much in need of the other half. What I can say is that being not available is to commit ourselves with another person. Although not married, but still we need to be responsible on commiting into one relationship.

So, what is it about being available? It's about having al the freedom that you want, doing anything that you wish for and saying whatever things that you want to anyone. What else? It is also about having more close friends around and more time for ourselves. Is that all?

Then, what about being not available? Actually, nothing much change. Just that, we need to think of the other half before doing so. For example, if I wants to go for vacation. Shall I ask if he wants to follow or just go with other guy? Of course when we are single, we can go anywhere with anyone. But with the other half, as a respect, for me, we should ask the other half first. Also, we need to manage the time spent on family and our half. So, less time with friends? It depends ..

It all depends on us. Relationship is about commitment. If there is no urge or no intention to takes care of another half, then single is a better choice. I known some couple where they still goes wherever they want without letting the other half know. But, this all depends. They have the same thinking, so it's no problem.

Being available and not available is just about having more responsibility and commitment. When you are ready, get yourself a partner! It sometimes taste sweet but it will taste sour too.. Main point is, more commitment!!!

Some people say this "Dating only, where got commitment". For me, this is very wrong. When you date, the person might be your future hubby or wife. Is it really no commitment? If no commitment, then in dating stage, we could have more than one lovers? Still, we need to stick with one person. Then why is it that some people say no commitment? Everything that we do, there are good and bad results. Deciding to have someone is a decision. As for this decision, we should react for the good of both and not for our own self.

What about being available since born and still not finding anyone or tasted love although are breathing for more than 30 years?? Well, I can say it is either no time or too picky. Hahahaha !!!!

Anyway, for me, being available or not available is a choice and decision. Once you take a step forward to be not available, we should think of our other half in any decision we make.

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